Research Catalog

Title

Permanent partners : building gay & lesbian relationships that last / Betty Berzon.

Author

Berzon, Betty.

Publication

New York : E.P. Dutton, ©1988.

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Details

Description

xiv, 354 pages; 24 cm

Summary

The goals of this book are to enable a person to gain perspective on a relationship that she or he may have grown too close to, in order to identify the particular relationship stressors that may be inhibiting growth in a partnership, and to develop new options for dealing with those stressors. More specifically, the book discusses ways of establishing compatibility, learning to diagnose the underlying issues of the relationship, the effects of internalized homophobia, ways to improve communication with your partner, how to negotiate your way out of power struggles, the enlivening effect of constructive fighting, how jealousy can hurt and help your partnership, sexual issues, financial arrangements and legal issues, the role of families in your relationship, having children, and dealing with change in your partnership.

Subject

• Gay couples > United States
• Lesbian couples > United States
• Interpersonal relations > United States
• Gay couples
• Interpersonal relations
• Lesbian couples
• Homosexualität
• Lesbische Orientierung
• Gay men > Interpersonal relations
• Lesbians > Interpersonal relations
• Gay men and intimacy
• Lesbians and intimacy
• United States

Bibliography (note)

• Bibliography: p. 351-354.

Contents

It's Time for a Change: Reinventing Gay and Lesbian Relationships -- Building Compatibility: Living with Differences and Working with the Effects of Relationship Myths and Fantasies -- Feeling Good About Being Gay: Understanding How Sexual Identity Conflict Can Affect Your Relationship -- "What's Going on Here?" Learning to Diagnose the Underlying Problems in Your Relationship -- "Are You Listening to Me?" Improving Communication with Your Partner -- "Who's in Charge, Now?" Addressing Power and Control Issues -- Jealousy: A New View of an Old Problem: Looking at the Broader Meanings and Positive Uses of Jealous Feelings -- Fighting the Good Fight: Learning to Deal with Conflict Constructively -- The Sexual Agenda: Improving Sexual Communication, Resolving the Monogamy Issue, and Coping with Sexual Desire Differences -- Money Issues: Understanding the Role of Money in the Power Equation and Setting Up the Optimal Money Management Plan for Your Relationship -- Empowering Your Relationship Legally: Making Use of Contracts, Joint Tenancy Ownership, Estate Planning, and Insurance Coverage to Protect Your Partnership Legally -- The Family, God Bless 'em: Integrating Your Families into Your Life as a Couple -- Having Children, Taking vows, Telling the World: Taking Advantage of Some New Options in Gay and Lesbian Relationships -- The Inevitability of Change in Your Partnership: Recognizing the Effects of Unspoken Contracts and Change-Resisting Routines -- In Praise of Our Partners: Giving Voice to Affection and Admiration, Affirming Lover and Love Alike.

ISBN

• 0525246983
• 9780525246985

LCCN

88011799

OCLC

• ocm17768703
• 17768703
• SCSB-1725531

Owning Institutions

Princeton University Library